Emotional Strain from DH Perspective

[VelociRaptor]

Well an update and it is probably not what you guys want to hear, but my DW and myself have ended up separating about 6 weeks ago. It appears as though she fell in love with someone else during this tough stage in her life which has left me feeling completely shattered and lost.

I have moved into our Investment property down south and starting to come to terms with living on my own for the first time in my life. I still want to have children and the fact that I am only 30 should leave me plenty of time. It doesn't feel like it now, but I am sure I will find a new partner when the time is right and start building a new life.

Sorry to post the bad news guys, but I thought I should let you know where I am at, that I am still alive, struggling a bit emotionally but am trying to stay positive. Once again, thanks for all the great advice and support offered in this post and hopefully in a year or 2 I can be posting a message that my new partner (when I find one) and I are expecting our first.

Cheers

VR

[slyder]

Sorry to hear that mate. Sounds like you are handling it as well as possible and have a positive outlook for the future. The time and energy you have spent in trying to get things back on track is a credit to you. Good luck.

[fionas]

VR - I'm sorry to hear that. Your DW sounds very confused and it sounds like you've behaved very honourably throughout which is something to be proud of.

Be gentle with yourself. Break-ups are always difficult.

I wish you all the very best and lots of love, happiness and tiny feet when the time is right.

[Kitt3n]

oh hun, that just sucks.

best of luck finding the love of your life and being able to share an amazing TTC journey with her.

[farmgirl77]

Hi VR,
I was really sorry to read how this TTC journey ended for you. I hope that you are able to take some time and space for yourself to help with the healing process, and that you find a wonderful person to share your next TTC journey with. Good luck.
FG

[numa]

Hi VR - I was just wondering how you were going a few days ago and wishing you would give us an update (its true!) I'm so sorry to hear its not good news though, what a rough time you have had recently... You sound like you are handling it with grace and dignity and I have no doubt there are wonderful things in store for you in the future. Take care and all the best

[Acacia]

I'm very sorry to hear how things have progressed, VR.

You sound like you have much hope for the future, and I'm glad that you're able to focus on this to help you through the pain of your separation. Your attitude towards helping, understanding and supporting your DW and efforts to make things right in your relationship was such a touching and warming thing to see, and I have no doubt that you will find someone in your life in your future who will appreciate those values in you so much.

I hope that the future brings you huge amounts of happiness with a new family when the time is right.

Take care of yourself, and all the best - we'll see you again in here I'm sure!

Miss C

[VelociRaptor]

Hey Guys,

Thanks for all the positive support.

I am looking forward to the day where I find that someone special again, it is definitely a 1 day at a time process, some days are good whereas others are quite dark and lonely. Living on my own for the first time in my life is a new thing for me as well.

I was lucky to have a great support group of friends, family (even if some of them have been my ex's family) and work mates that have really helped and continue to help me through this time.

I guess the toughest thing has been seeing my wife just seem to not show any emotion and move straight back on with life. She has already got another man (I am pretty sure this was the cause of the whole issue)

It also a little scary knowing I will have to get back out into the dating scene, haven't been there since I was 18 so this could be interesting.

Anyway must get back to it, hopefully in the not to distant future I am back on here posting that my new wife and I have started the whole TTC journey.

Thanks

VR