Thanks FG,

You guys have really opened my eyes as to what it is like - guess it never crosses your mind if you never experience it.

She has agreed to try to repair our friendship - so we are going to go shopping - she needs new clothes apparently. Doesn't want to go with our other mutual friend cos she doesn't want to make her feel bad (our mutual friend is quite a heavy girl - my friend is a size 6!!)

DH can look after the kids that day and I will promise to myself to NOT talk about the kids!!!

Thank you to everyone