I'm up to IVF attempt #13 and I feel that it has definitely effected our relationship, we have been together for 7 years now. We have also been through quite a lot together prior to the IVF process. DH is a very sensitive and caring man - but recently we had the opportunity of time away from our child. We had a chat and I was suprised that my DH stated that we would have probably divorced by now if it wasn't for a success on attempt#4.

You can't underestimate how the hormone treatment can effect you emotionally and physically.

You need to be open and honest about the process before and during. Planning time is very important, time together and time apart. Little code words or gestures to indicate how you are feeling - there is nothing worse than being asked how you feel?

Sometimes I find myself biting at DH and saying look it's my body that it's happening to you don't understand - and men just don't really really understand - as long as they try - that's important.

You can tend to become very introverted and unsociable because you're frightened that you might snap at someone or get upset - so your friends and family need to be understanding too.