Keen - I totally hear you re: people's responses. I continually get "When the time is right it'll happen." And I put on a smiling face and say, "Yeah I know."
What they don't understand is that if I had just "waited for the time to be right" I would have never gotten pg - as DH and I have been told that is virtually impossible for us naturally.
I also think: well was the time right for that young girl, unmarried and unable to support her child when she got pg? Or was the time right for that heroin addict I saw at work who cares more about her drugs than her children?
I think you have to be proactive and MAKE the time right!!

Sorry - I'm totally off the topic but needed to get that out........phew, I feel better now.