clare - i really hope that things are going to go ok for you - don't give up hope on this cycle of IUI - you never know! at least you've got appointments booked to take the next step.

i totally agree with the statement about couples staying together after going through fertility treatment - i guess it's the sort of thing that applies when you've been through anything big - if you just cruise through a realationship with nothing to test you, you lose appreciation of what you have. when your relationship is tested by something traumatic, it brings you closer together - you have a deeper sense of appreciation for the other person and how they complete you (well, that's what i've found anyway!).