T-Hopes - I'd be bloody angry as well. And to talk to your Mum behind your back to me that is crossing a line and not forgivable. She has worried you mum uneccissarily (having a spelling block).
We only told my Mum and my MIL about our IVF. We told no one else. DH told his sister we were doing it but never discussed it with her. Needless to say she had to blab to 1 family member and then it did the rounds but I refused to disscuss it. It is no ones business but Mine and DH.
Family put way too much pressure on me and I don't deal well with pressure and I tend to get snappy. It's not the imediated family who gossip it's the extended family on DH side that are nosey and want to know the ins and outs. They eventually stopped asking me which I was very happy about. Not that I told them anything. After the 500th time of being asked what's happening you kind of get sick of hearing it.
I still get the "Are you UTD Yet" from one extended family member but I deny deny deny all. They never new of the first pregnancy and I'm so glad they didn't. I actually dread telling them all because they will be comparing my pregnancy to another family member's pregnancy and she's due a couple of weeks before me. Already I'm sick of hearing about her. Sick of hearing how sick she is blah blah blah. She should be god damn greatful.
Oh my we are down this morning,
Have you all forgotten it doesn't really matter what anyone thinks apart from you and your DH or partner, how could anyone else possible know what its like to mc and then TTC forever it seems and then take the brave step into getting fertility help ?
The ladies on here know how it feels and there the ones you need to talk to stuff the inlaws and outlaws what do they know !!!!
I may have had lots of kids but it has never been easy for me and if I had listened to every TOM<**** and Harrys opinions along the way well I would have had just the one kid ! so do what you feel is right stuff everyone else !!!!
Saffy- My cycles were actually worse before my MC I would have AF every 2.5-3weeks and it was horrible, then had the MC so the cycles I'm having now are actually more regular than what they were beforehand if you can believe that.....lol....ah well no doubt hopefully these BTs will come back with some answers for me, maybe........
Craftymummy- Well said I agree with you who is anybody to say anything negative about any woman and her partner that endures any type of assisted conception or IVF. I find all the women I have met that have been through it or are going through it truly inspiring. And it really proves to me how much the person really wants to be a mum and for that we all should be proud and stand tall.
Luna- I only got positive OPKs a few times but AF would show up 14 days later. As far as I know you O 24-36 hours after a positive OPK.
Claires'mum - I think you asked about suppliments ect before. Well I and a lot of ladies on here have been or are on Vitex (aka Chaste Tree) a herbal suppliment that helps balance hormones and regulate cycles (and in my case improves my mood swings no end). You might like to research it a bit. If you decide to take it I'd definitely recommend the tablet form not the liquid as its disgusting. Hopefully the bt results will shed some light on what is going on for you.
T-Hopes - You poor darling, this is all hard enough without other people putting thier sh#t on us. Crafty is right you need to recognise that it is their sh#t and not take it on board, what the hell do they know!!! What we are doing is our decision and none of their f@#king business. Hearing these things makes me glad that my family is small, well tiny really, just 4 of us! You rant anytime you need babe, we are here for you.
Crafty - You still getting boobie pains?
AFM- I went to work but left after 40 mins. The OHSS is really knocking me around, I'm just so uncomfortable if I'm not lying down. At least the constipation seems to be over, the extra pressure was really not helping. On a very more positive note I have 2 snow buds so it is all worth it.
Thanks for helping me for the 2nd day in a row! Gosh im high maintenance lately Your all sooo right, they have no idea and i just need to dismiss it all... and i have learnt the hard way not to discuss it with certain ppl!
So Ive brushed it off now after having a great day at work with lots of laughs with a great mate!! Im back on top and in control! Giddy up!!
Sunbeam! yay for the snow bubs!!! rest up with that OHSS, need to look after yourself, rest and relax as much as you can! I have a large family and whilst it is wonderful, there are certainly the down sides of ppl getting in your business! thanks for listening and responding to my little rant! xx
Crafty - It makes complete sense, thank you! And 'outlaws'... that can be their new name ! hhehehe And yes, how are to shooting BB pains going??
Saffy - yes MIL has a few issues... she can be an absolute darl sometimes and other times, my gosh!!! thx love! hope that wicked AF hurries up and arrives soon!! Mine is due on Monday so we will be on the Oct IVF road together
Porsche - I see your 9 wks now! Wow, where has the time gone! Im sure its draggin for you but cant beleive how far youve come already! Glad youve been able to keep it all secret so far, its can be hard... we never told anyone for our pregnancy, i felt so protective over the bub!! thanks for the advice gorgeous, take care and lovely to hear from u! xx
Thanks again everyone! I will be better tomorrow and no whinging from me!!!
Spoke to my ivf nurse today and meeting with her monday morning to go thru our med plan for the 1st ivf cycle! fingers crossed AF arrives on time and we can get into it!! im excited!!
love to everyone ive missed!
Alice - hope your resting up and your little eggs are forming in to beautiful embies!!! xx
Take it from me the older you get the less you listen to other people and their opinions !!!
Well still got shooting pains in the boobies every now and then oh I wonder which way it will go still 50/50 only 6 more days to wait until I can officially be late !!! can I wait it out YES I THINK SO !! I hate seeing one line !!!
Sunbeam take it easy girl you got precious cargo on board !!
Alice any news how you doing ?
Indias mum love the new name but I am so used to your old one you been on here a while now like me !!! but I will get used to it
saffy any news has the witch arrived ?
Matthews mum how you doing with the osteo ? hope your channeling your positive thoughts into your next transfer and a BFP !
Porshe wow 9wks thats awsome but I know I will be so scared until I get to 16wks so I understand your keeping it quiet but hey not long till your scan hey !
Thants about it for now enjoy your evening and sleep tight
Just had an awsome arvo on the beach with my tribe they are such beach bums !!!
Ladies, just a quick update. Still not AF, thank you for your responses about OPKs and luteal phase, that is what I thought too, that AF should be here by now. I woke up feeling hangover, although I did not drink, so I did HPT, the digital kind, it came back with PREGNANT. Still not beliving it, I did 2 FR - the ones that show you 2 lines. Absolutely positively BFN. I mean, it was a ****ty-teanger-that-does-not-use-birth-control dream test result. So I still do not know.
I read several times on this forum that when the HPT was not showing a strong line early, then the pregnancy ended in miscarriage. So now I am afraid it will be chemical. I did not even tell my DH, do not want to get his hopes up.
THopes - it's nobody's decision but yours. And I am still hoping that the AF will be late for you by, oh, about 9 months at least ;-)
so it is all worth it.
Your all sooo right, they have no idea and i just need to dismiss it all... and i have learnt the hard way not to discuss it with certain ppl! 
And yes, how are to shooting BB pains going??
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