Thanks everyone - your words have strenghtened my resolve to be less analytical and less questioning of our deservedness (not sure if that is actually a word) to have a baby.

To be fair to my friend, she was not meaning to be hurtful, I guess I'm just being sensitive and it just made me really think about it all. I think when travelling down this path we have so much time to think about babies and some many decision points that it makes something which for some is a '30 sec' decision into something that is a long term stress. I guess too it is my doubts creeping in more than my friends comments. I

Good luck everyone, and thanks, this really is a great forum