Tubal Reversals #15

[dearmum]

Hi Ladies After all the excitement of buying the blue clothes and seeing him on the 19 week scan the outcome is no good.

Here goes Last week i was sick and had a bleed so i rang my doc and he said come in the next day so i went in and he checked all seemed ok so he asked me to have a BT and urine test for infection,come a few days later i called them thinking they would call me if something was wrong,well it turned out i had a infection so they asked me to take these tablets that my chemist guy said was to strong for pregnant women but i had to listen to my OB so i took them,ladies that night i had slight contractions but because they were not painful i didnt take notice,well come the next morning my waters broke yeh they b*****Y broke i was sooo shocked because this sort of things dont happen to me i have never had any problems with my other pregnancies.My DH rushed me to the hospital and the doctors said there is nothing they can do because all my water is gone and they cant help a 20 week baby he needs to be 24 weeksmy heart just dropped i felt sad and angry at my OB,so i prayed he will survive another 4 weeks.Ladies it only got worse the tube ended up coming out of me,but he was still alive the docs were amazed but they told me to make a decision as if we keep going i will get infected and the baby is still going to die anyway.Oh gosh so now it was up to me,it was the hardest decision as how can i pull the plug on my baby boy.We had to make up our mind so i thought let him go back to god and be in heaven,and ladies after i told the docs he died.I went through labour 1.5hrs but i had my family with me,we all prayed and said our last goodbys.I will always miss him,i will always love him.I think he was to good for this world so god took him back.

[crazymum2]

Dearmum, I am very sad to hear about your loss of your son. Please take care and look after yourself. Take all the time you need. GBH to you.

[Mumof8]

Oh Dearmum im so so sad for you i really don't know what to say but im sorry you have to go threw this terrible terrible time. God look over you and your family at this time of need. I think i would be giving your OB a nice letter from your lawyer.

Seems everyone is having a tough time at the moment, it just doesn't seem to stop. I too have had a bl00dy **** weeks. It all started last friday one of my girlfriends dropped in and said sorry i havent been around but my aunty had died,she was only 47. Then i went to pick the kids up from school and my DD1 said oh mum the sadest thing happened today my best friends dad died, she got a call from her sister when we were in maths. I was thinking oh my god thats so sad. So we got home and i was tell my DF about it all and me and my big mouths says theses things happen in 3's. So on saturday we made a picnic lunch and off to cricket we went(i hate watching cricket). Half way there my mobile rings and says my DD great grandma is dying and to come asap thats was 1pm. So i went home booked some flights and a hire car and off to Queensland we went and landed at 7:30pm. We got home tuesday night late very tired and drained i only took 3 of the kids with me. When i got home my 4 year old said mum i have a sore tooth and i said its ok i'll look at it in the morning its very late. In the morning his cheek was abit swollen so i took him to the dentist who then gave me a referel to see a dental specialist that afternoon. So we went to that and she said he needed about $4000 in work done, i replied with "god are you going to gold plate them". So we booked it all in to be done next thursday the 2nd but if the swelling went into the eye area then take him to hospital. So he woke up the next day and his cheek was so so swollen so straight to westmead childrens hospital and i called the specialist on the way there. They gave him a general that night and took four teeth and did stints and what ever else so we got home late last night. So in just a week ive blown $6000 . Never ends.
Hope all you girls are good and take care XXX

[onemore]

Oh Dearmum, so so sorry for the loss of your little boy. I can only imagine what you and your family are going through.
I just finished reading another thread from belly budies for Feb and one of the ladies there has just also lost her little boy at 20 weeks, his kidneys etc had not developed properly therefor not producing amniotic fluid and she had to be induced.
Why this happens I will never understand, it is just not fair. Then I come in here and the news just gets worse. I cant stop crying Take all the time you need and please look after yourselves.

[luvchildren]

Dearmum, i have you in my thoughts and prayers. i hope that lots of support comes your way. some things are so difficult in life.
i too am having to put off this cycle. I am having another ectopic pregnancy. i just don't want to go through surgery.
hope everyone else is doing okay.

[kiya]

OMG!!...Ladies, my heart goes out to both of you in this sad time....Wish you both a full recovery....I wish i could be there for both of you and put my arms around both of you and comfort you both......Take care and take your time with the healing process....Nikki (aka kiya)

[dearmum]

So sorry Luvchildren to hear your bad news alsoi cant believe the amount of bad luck everyone is having,i swear this year has been the worst year of my life.Just bad news after bad news.
Ladies my heart is aching for another baby,i was my happiest while i was pregnant.
I dont know how quick i can try again but i need to as i cant imagine going on in life without trying again.
Its so hard being home as everything reminds me of being pregnant

[Mumof8]

Dearmum,
I could only imagine how hard it would have been having to give birth to your son name him then bury him, your a very strong lady. When i lost my bub at 8 weeks that was the sadest thing i myself had to deal with. So you lossing your bub at 20weeks must break your heart big time. I know you can never replace hime but having another baby may fill the hole in your heart. Personally i think i would do the same thing as i think it would make the healing process alot easier but everyone is different.
Give your clinic a call and see what they say it can't hurt to ask.
Take good care of yourself.XXXX

Hey Luv hows things going