Hey Sarah,

You are 100% right - pregnancy and loss are very private and personal issues. In fact, as is any issue really, i.e. you have the right to have your wishes and privacy respected. Other people may not necessarily understand or agree and that's fine - everyone has the right to their own opinion. At the end of the day only you can decide what is best for you and it does hurt when somebody else passes judgement or doesn't respect your wishes, particularly when it is somebody that is close to you, and that you hold very high expectations of IYKWIM?

It has been very hurtful to me the things that some people have said to me during this PG. A lot of people that know about the m/c's (or at least one of them) tend to be very dismissive of my feelings, i.e. they can't understand why I live in constant fear and am so anxious. It hurts that people can't just accept that (a) I am naturally an anxious person and (b) that having suffered a loss, it is only understandable to have concerns and fears. Some people also tend to be overly negative, either in things they say directly, or indirectly IYKWIM. Either way is just as hurtful and certainly doesn't help how I feel. All in all it's a very hard time and you do need support as you say. That's why these forums are great because there are people out there who do understand, even when there are people IRL who don't!

Anyway, enough about me......I've prattled on a bit there LOL. As you can see it's obviously a very sensitive issue and I really appreciate having an outlet such as BB!