I still struggle with other people's pregnancies, nearly two years on from my loss, and with my earthside baby in my arms. Hard to explain, but I do. It all melts away once their baby is here, though, for some reason. It's nothing to do with the child; I'm mourning the journey. I had a long and bumpy road into motherhood, and I find it really hard to watch other folks have a relatively easy journey.

Give her time, let her do it on her terms. If she needs space, then give it to her. Don't stress about it, don't be mad, let it go, and welcome her when she does choose to come to you.

Also, when she does start trying again, and get pregnant, even when she's past 28 weeks, even with that baby in her arms - don't ever assume that the hurt will go away.