I'm hoping that you can help me understand a bit better because I really need some insight please.
My sister lost her little boy at 28 weeks a few months ago (their first). It was completely devestating for them and the whole family has mourned little man and been there completely support my sister & DH. For different reasons she is not able to start TTC a sibling for her little man yet.
I am currently 12 weeks pg with our #3 gorgeous babe which we know we are so incredibly blessed to be and thank God everyday for.
We were already trying for our precious one before they lost their babe. DH & I talked about stopping trying for a while but were told that they were going to start trying straight away again (this changed through no control of theirs). They also said that they understand that life goes on and they don't expect anyone to stop living their lives just because they lost their boy. We talked about it for a month and decided not to stop trying. We fall pg very quickly this time so we understand that their loss is very very fresh and incredibly raw still.
What I am hoping you can help me with is my sister has written me off and told mum to tell me that I am not to have any contact with her or see her at all because I have hurt her so much, she can't believe i've done it to her. We didn't tell my sister we got mum to do it so she could be hurt, cry and not have to try and be excited for us and she could have some time to get her head around it before she saw us. I didn't expect her to be happy for us and yes to be sad but to completely write me off and tell me that I've done this to hurt her is devestating.
My pregnancy is not acknowledged at all by my family because of the hurt I've caused. I am devestated because I don't think I have done anything to cause hurt. My DH and I are welcoming another baby into our lives and why does my baby deserve to be ignored and me hurt by my pg being ignored?
I mean no disrepect because I could never imagine the heartbreaking devestating of losing your precious babe that is why I'm asking for different perspectives. Can you please help me understand?
Thanks,
Dan.