We ended up saying something like " We are so sad to hear the loss of X. Please know our love, thoughts and prayers are with you and DH". The girls just wanted to keep the main comment short and then those that wanted to wrote their own little thing. We also all agreed that "Congratulations" wasn't really what we were trying to say so didn't use that.

As Tash said- we think its more important to show we support and love her