Hey I know you have been to work but I just wanted to add a bit... I hated the thought of "Congratulations".. I know that DD was born and thats wonderful, but she also died and thats not something to congratulate. And it was like a sting (or knife in my heart) to hear Congratulations, it was like Congrats, your baby died! I know that isnt how people feel when they say or write it, but its how it made me feel. But everyone is different- as this thread goes to show.. but I just wanted to put it out there.

Definately acknowledge her baby, and say your sad and sorry to hear that he or she is gone. And it will be hard on you being so close to term, in the future when/if you are both back at work together, she may be a bit ackward with you, dont take it personally... just be aware.

Its great that your all banding together to be there for her xoxox