one of my closest GF's sign's her son's name....He was born on mothers day in 2001 at 36 weeks SB.

i cry every time I read a card with his name in it....its very emotional for us...I just found out I was pg with WIlhelm when it happened and I love this woman like a sister

I personally think if it helps the person move on then do it. Its a very emotional for any woman...especially when they have not been able to see that child grow into their personality and adulthood. I think its an absolutey beautiful gesture on your behalf to put Phoebe's name in the card...we dont forget older relatives that have passed..why should we forget a baby.

your beautiful darl...truely beautiful