I think your card is beautiful Mel - & I am sure it made her cry but also warmed her Spirit. As for your question about your DH thinking it all a bit wierd. Not at all imo.

Sadly having had a lot to do with women who have lost babies before birth - it's not uncommon to recognise that child's position in the family by signing their name.

Sometimes a name is the only thing left - & using that name out loud and by writing it - brings that person/child back into the now.

Your sister may always do this - or in time she may let it go. That does not mean she does or does not need more counselling - it just illustrates the different ways that we grieve/remember.

I actually think it shows courage and depth - that regardless of how she will be thought of she stands up and does what she needs to do.

I am sure Phoebe was dancing in the Sunlight - and that her beauty will always remain a special part of your family...