CJF - she told my mum to thank me for it, and sent me a text message also saying thank you, and that it was good that someone else in the family remembered - not just them. So I get the feeling nobody else acknowledged her? I think she was touched though - and she's a pretty hard nut my sister!!

Kitten - thank you I think I will keep on acknowledging Phoebe, even though my DH doesn't understand (maybe its a male thing, and the fact that it didn't happen to his immediate family?)