What i had done, when i had the strength, was make a special box for all the beautiful things i had bought Izzy before she was born. I had also kept the pregnancy tests, my wristband from the hospital, her clothes, photo albums that my mum had engraved and i scrapbooked all her ultrasound pics and birth pics with beautiful borders and words from the heart. My DP and i also bought a necklace with the letter 'I' hanging from it so it's always close to my heart.
We had also had a ceremony for her at our hospital where we got to light a 'special' candle for her and we spread her ashes next month in a beautiful baby garden that they have near their chapel there.
All of these things have definately helped me grieve and move on, although i will never forget. I know u feel like u have been dealt with the worst possible card, and you can only ask 'why' and yearn for ur little girl, but just remember, u can always talk to her and know that she will always love u and remember that special moment when she was laying in your arms, feeling ur heart beat against hers.
I don't have any answers, but just take the time u need. Cry whenever u want to cry, scream, yell and do anything that helps. Get a teddy bear that reminds u of her and cuddle it every chance u get. U are not alone, she is with u every second of the day, u just can't see her all the time but she will visit u in ur dreams when the time is right. Just trust in the bigger picture and the pain will eventually ease.
I hope i have helped a little bit. I am always here if u ever need to chat. Say whatever u are feeling, no one is judgemental here.
Take special care xoxoxo
Thanks so much for your encouragement. We feel very blessed that we got to hold our little girl and that her heart was beating for 90 min. The fact that she was born alive also meant that we had to have a burial for which I am thankful for. It was a very beautiful funeral and although she was only in this world for 90 min she has impacted it in a very powerful way. I have many things that will remind me of her besides that. Some of it I still find hard to look at or hold, but I know that someday I will truly treasure it. We have pictures of her and us while she was still with us which I will scrapbook one day. I have her little blanket that she was wrapped it. The hospital gave us a treasure box where I store some of her things. Although it is a very painful time I have much to be thankful for, particularly the time we had with our precious Kathleen.

Thanks again and take care.
Karin