Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #1

[Inanna]

Hi Kerry,
I am sorry for your loss. I believe it's a little early to be having your period. I see though that your care provider feels certain that your miscarriage was complete so I tend to think it is perhaps just more loss from your miscarriage. It isn't abnormal to bleed for up to 21 days post miscarriage. Sometimes it can seem like it's all over and then it comes back again for a few days. This too is normal.

If you are concerned I would consult your doctor. Drink plenty of water to help flush out your system. Take it nice and easy. Your body has been through an awful lot and it needs to be rested as much as possible.

Please don't worry too much about the stats for women over 35. Stats are not our friend a lot of the time. It is statistically accurate that miscarriages are more common after 35 but each individual woman has her own path. Tell your body that it is healthy and strong, surround yourself with support and truly believe that you will hold that baby in your arms.

Have you thought of seeking out a chinese medicine specialist? This can be helpful in conjunction with your medical doctor. It may not be comfortable for you but if it is I can say that personally I have only wonderful stories from mine.

Take care Kerry big big :hugs: to you in this diffiuclt time.

[Bun]

Hi Kerry, Owl and everybody else. I hope everyone is going ok.

Kerry - I don't know about when AF is supposed to show up again, although I have heard all sorts of things. No sign of mine coming back yet. When I went off the pill at the beginning of the year it took 4 months to get it back again and from then was having long cycles, so I am half expecting to go back to that again which would be a real pain and make ttc difficult.

Owl - that is a long wait for test results. I hope the time goes fast.

I had an abnormal result on my last pap smear too. My dr wasn't concerned and said it was the least serious abnormal result and to have another one in 6 months. Well six months later I was pregnant, and my dr said not to worry about getting another one. Anyway, now I suppose I should, but I need to find a new dr as the clinic I usually go to stuffed up and handled things pretty badly so I am never going back there again. I am now worried about it but will think about it when I get back from holidays.

I went to a wedding on the weekend and I have never seen so many babies and pregnant women in my life, seriously. I would have been annoucing my pregnany on the weekend. Life sucks sometimes, and I am having a shocking day at work. I just feel like crawling into a hole and never coming out.

I hope you guys are doing better than me.

Bun

[cheekyfrog]

Thanks, Deb, for answering my SOS. What you say makes much more sense to me. I did think it was strange, although the cramping was like AF and the bleed was similar to normal AF. Pleased though that this second bleed now seems to have finished and I think I have a couple of days left with this cold I have and then I'll be feeling much better. I will think about seeing a Chinese medical specialist, too - all advice is gratefully accepted, especially yours. And... I'd like to send you an all enveloping hug - I am so very sorry for your loss, Deb. I was in tears when I saw that your precious baby had died, I couldn't believe it was true, and moved to tears again and again when I read Eggbert's story. Hugs to you and your family.