Hi everyone.

Anna - sorry that you are back here again. This really is such a hard time to get through, and we are all thinking of you. You are right, it is awful how common this is, and how so many people are not aware of that, or aware of how painful it is to go through, esp more than once. Cuddle your son and enjoy the fact that you have him, and you WILL give him a little brother or sister soon.

Mattsmum - it's funny how these things let you know what it is that you really want. Before we started TTC, I was worried about work, etc, and thinking maybe we should wait a little longer until my career is more established, and until we had more money. After the first m/c, I was soooo certain about what I want. I want a big family, and that is more important than money and career. But now that I know that is what I want, I can't seem to get it! After the second m/c, I just fell apart, and now I am convinced I will never have the thing I want most. Please try to believe that this won't happen again, the chance of that would be so very small. And I am sure your care providers will take good care of you next time and will understand your anxiety.

Jane- it is funny how these things can make a relationship stronger. DH and I are as strong as ever, and the last 3 months have not been fun for us. We have fought and struggled with our feelings over everything, but we are still so strong, so maybe that is the only good thing we can get out of all this...