That's why you run it by the family first. Everyone is different. It was important to me that my friends came, pregnant or not. They asked first if it was OK. I just wanted their support. The only kids we had at DS1's funeral were my niece and nephew. My brother decided not to bring them to DS2's funeral because my niece was a mess at having lost 2 cousins so close together

Anyway, I think the card and flowers are a nice idea. Teddies are nice too. I still cling to the teddies we have for our boys. I'm not sure about a balloon though. Other items that we received include Willow figurines, an olive plant, roses. Don't bombard them with stuff though.

It's a tough one, but it's good you're doing something. If you're not sure about adding items, leave them out. It's the card and the real life support that matter the most.

I agree with Skybie - saying the baby's name is really important.