Bonham that is wonderful wonderful news honey! I am so relieved that this little one is doing the right things in there!

Michelle: I too am sorry my love.

Willow: Yay for better sleep!!!!! I hope it all stays good my love...

Kristy: Of course you are doing beautifully on your own - you are amazing! I hope things stay on track & you enjoy that wine. ..

Kelly: I hope the weekend is good for you...

Freya: I hope that all these bugs leave your house soon...

Lee: How are you going my love?

Janie: Look how far you are getting!!!! This is wonderful - I know how frustrating it is to have to rest all the time - and I know that you know it's what has to happen & that doesn't make it any easier. Just know you are in my thoughts and prayers... Another 6 days & you've made it to 34 weeks. That is so fabulous... Let's hope & pray that this little one does the right things & stays put for another few weeks.

Me: Well it's been very very trying here. I haven't wanted to whinge and whine too much & now I'm feeling a bit better I can share a bit. The FOTY let my 14 yo DD go to a rave party in town, she had asked him, told him I didn't know & went with his blessing. I was phoned in the middle of the night by concerned parents who knew I didn't know she was there... Girls were taken away by ambulance, girls vomiting in the street... It was ordinary... Her father picked her & some other girls up at around midnight, leaving DS9 & DD5 alone on the farm... It just does my head in how they can get away with all of this behaviour. Of course she met a 19 yo boy there that she now wants to go out with him... So, you can imagine how difficult this is. To give her her due she came to me the next day to tell me that she had gone to the party & knew it was the wrong thing to do. I was proud of her honesty. Her father had told her not to tell me as "I would go mad"... You've gotta love the maturity of someone who is trying to win points with his 14year old daughter...

Anyway I have told her that I cannot really stop her going out with the boy but I disagree strongly, I am very very worried & would she come along and talk to a professional about it so she can see that there are good reasons why etc... She likes him because he's mature, reads a lot of books & is very shy... I know his Mother & he is a nice young man (Goodness I sound old...) BUT he is 5 years older than her... Anyway she has agreed to talk & has been very reasonable. Even though her father can't see anything wrong with it... I think she can see that I am really worried...

Of course there has been no further advance on the property settlement. He disputes Imogen's diagnosis & requested pathology results & a report from the Dr... Of course that was promptly forwarded to his Solicitor & I have heard nothing since. So, next Tuesday I am meeting with my Solicitor to sign the papers to commence Court proceedings. It's costly but I agree with my Solicitor that there is no other way to get him to answer. He has provided no disclosure of financial information, no acknowledgement of receipt of letters - my Solicitor emailed his Solicitor yesterday stating that we would begin action next Tuesday and to ask where he can be found to serve papers... So, if that doesn't get any action we go to Court in April.
He had his mediation session this week & they contacted me for an appointment to meet with the child liason person to discuss them. The FOTY has been telling the children that I am turning them against him - the past 2 times they have seen him they have come back saying he was crying and saying that he didn't want it to be this way & I am going to make them hate him... My kids love their Dad & even though he is a complete lunatic right now I know that he loves them. I know some people say you shouldn't say too much - but in our situation I really do need to. I can't tell my kids that we are divorcing because we couldn't work it out. We are getting divorced because he doesnt want to be married to me... I can't make up a story to make it right for him without lying to my children. I don't want them believing I wouldn't have done all I could. I can't let them think him having a relationship with someone who was once a very close friend. I can't let them think it's not outrageous for him to tell my children how gorgeous her boys are & how much he loves spending time with them...

So, I am imaging the poo will hit the fan... A couple of weekends ago my kids came home telling me that they had spent the whole day with Ms Sloppy Seconds & she was changing Immy's nappies and gooing over her... I just about lost the plot. It's just so wrong. I know I cannot do anything to stop them doing that - but I again asked them to not do their thing around my kids... I just don't want them growing up to think it's a cool thing to take up with your friends husband...

Anyway suffice it to say it's been very difficult here - so my apologies for not being around as much.