Thank you Theresa, that means a lot. I almost didn't post something tonight worried that how could I comment when things were so off with Matilda, but I couldn't keep my big mouth shut

Well today I threw all plans out the window and just hung out with Matilda and went with her.... its good that I could do that today...the next 4 days have some pretty strict plans so at least I could do that today. She woke up late at 7.40am which was fantastic. And we read some stories again on the lounge, I didn't push breakfast & let her ask for it. Then she didn't eat much but I let her out when she said she was finished... so she then ran into our room & started pulling off her clothes saying "shower"... because that is usually what happens after breakfast if we need to go out & I need my shower... so we had a shower. She then watched some Wiggles and I sat with her & sang along. Then she wanted to eat again (no big surprise) and I fed her yogurt & rockmelon & she asked for ham when she was finished so had that too. Then she said she was finished so I let her out & we went to the shops because everything was so peaceful. She was great at the shops. We came home & had lunch & she played for a while & then had a nap... no tantrums, no screaming, no hitting, nothing. I can't think of what I'm doing entirely different because we are doing the exact plan for yesterday today... I think I wasn't as stressed as yesterday but she didn't wake up trying to push my buttons... she didn't wake up screaming and start the day off with a time-out for hurting the dog.

So this arvo has been good, a bit unsettled at dinner because we have started a new thing where she is given one dinner and if she doesn't eat, she doesn't eat. (Previously DH would give her 3 different meals in an attempt to get her to eat well....). So I think she's realising this because she hasn't eaten breakfast or dinner for 3 days and tonight she ate her food. Sure she picked out the olives but that was okay by me. She's only tried them once before & didn't like them, but loves tapanade so its probably a texture thing anyway... But no major upheavals today, sure she complained at the shops for a minute when I wouldn't let her out of the trolley & she got cranky when I wouldn't give her anymore tic tacs, but that didn't phase me.