Doesn't help that my 2 sister-in-laws (who I don't know at all, really) give the impression that motherhood is one constant state of easy bliss. One even said that her kids (younger than my DD) sleep through because she "put in the hard work in the early days".... what, so I didn't "work hard" enough?!!
Poo poo to them! If you haven't had a non-sleeper, you can't understand what it is like. A friend has told me 'that's not enough sleep, just put her back in the cot'- Yeah right, cos that is gonna work.

I read the NCSS a few months back and thought it had good ideas. I re-read it recenly cos i was ready to attempt to make changes, and found that it didn't really have anything to offer me apart from reassurance that eventually she will learn how to to sleep. There are ideas that i have used but they haven't made much difference in the big picture.

I don't have any advice, but you do have my empathy.

take care,