Hey can I join up?

I'm in a little different position to you all - I've been single for over 3 years, effectively raising my two sons on my own. They're now 6 and 4, getting more and more independent each day. I was also the first of my "girlfriends" to have kids, and now a lot of them are having babies.

However, I waver day to day as to whether I ever want more (even if I had the opportunity). Most days it's a definite no. I like my sleep. I LOVE my work. And sometimes I feel as if I'm too selfish.

But there is a little part of me that says "if the circumstances were right..." As in if I had a partner who supported me 100%, that I could financially afford to stay home for 2-3 years, that I could take this time-out from my career... etc etc...

Gee it's hard, isn't it! I also get people saying "you're so young" but really, it's not about youth, is it. It is about ability and willingness of BOTH parties... and so many other things also come into the equation.

Hugs and thanks Maz for starting this!