I admit that she sleeps WAAAAY better for me than for XP, and that she'd sleep WAY less well for me if he was here doing bedtime more than once or twice a week. When i put her to bed i am out of her room by 8.40pm at latest. He is still in there reading stories at 9.40pm....

With the 2 beds i gave her a choice every night "Big bed or wee bed?" - if she went in the cot i sat on the floor next to her to read stories, if she went in the big bed she got to cuddle up with me. She preferred the cuddle up (i'm not mean - her cot was only big enough for her, it was a little IKEA one, there was nowhere else TO cudle up but the big bed!). When she was mainly asking for the big bed i put the cot away. When she asked to sleep in it i showed her it, dismantled, and said "oh, it's all taken apart, you can't sleep there now!" and she quite happily went to the big bed. Took about 4 months to fully transition, though i chucked a delay in because i was having friends come to stay and it was handy to have the cot and bed there for them (had kids with them).

Bx