I was i the same situation with my dd when she was a baby....All my mothers group would have there kids fall asleep in there cots and not pick them up and yes there kids slept fine but I could never do it...Everytime my dd cried it was instinct for me to go in and comfort my dd ..I had a constent battle going on in my head until after 5 months I decided that I was going to do tings that felt like the right way for me and dd and that was to hold her in my arms while sitting in the rocking chair until she fall asleep..watching her little eyes close and knowing that she fall asleep happy and feeling secure in her mummies arms...sure it took her longer to sleep through the whole night..sure it took me longer to get her to sleep..but next year she is going to school and as you can see i rememebr those moments of her falling asleep in my arms like it was yesterday