Definately!! I am not a mother yet but I see it all the time with others! Some people repeat the patterns in their family and other people are so concerned with not repeating the patterns that they go over the top doing the opposite. I think it happens with most people and is a pretty normal thing but it can be hard to recognise.
By the time Olivia was 6 months old I realised that there were a great many issues that lurked.
Don't get me wrong, I had a very happy childhood, but there were some issues that came to light surrounding my mother/food that I knew I would have to deal with/eradicate, or risk repeating history again.
I am a woman on a mission now to ensure that I am the generation that breaks the food=love & eating = approval pattern. It is NOT a belief or trait that I want my children to inherit.
I have done a lot of work on myself to ensure that I do not repeat the well meaning doctrines of my mother and my grandmother...........so my girls particularly stand a chance of never connecting food with emotions........
Most definitely! I don't think we can avoid it really, at least to a certain degree. That doesn't mean we can't be aware of it and take steps to control it though (as lucy is doing).
The number of things that come out of my mouth that sound like my mother is just scary. And I also notice since having two that I tend to approach alot of things relating to the relationship between our two kids in the same way my parents approached them with my brother and me. But that doesn't worry me too much because despite their general apathy (ie. allowing us to all but murder eachother most of the time) we are extremely close and well adjusted now I think.
I had a few issues i had from my childhood and did alot of hard work to become the best mum i think i am. But i now understand how it made my parents feel when i was doing stuff i was good at and making them happy. And i think my son does that and they are proud of me for over coming my problems and beign the person i am. So i am glad im in soem ways like my folks
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I think.
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