I too notice the anger that my parenting seems to raise in my parents. "Why do you give them choices"? "Why do you tell them when you do that I feel like this???" "It's wrong and only confuses them. "They need to know right and wrong and this is what I will do to you if you do the wrong thing"!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have even had them comment on my son being "unnaturally close" to me. Simply because he is emotional and caring and shares his stuff with me...

Like Lucy I want my children to not have to wade thru as much emotional debris as I have had to...