Great topic Rory... sorry its taken so long for me to find it! Tad chaotic round here ATM so in a nutshell: Hell yeah!!! Huge issues here So true about when you parent differently to your own mother they can often see it as a personal attack. All I can seem to do is chip around the edges of change. Little by little i will whittle away and make the changes that need to be made... you have to be so patient with yourself. Even after 13 years the process isn't getting any easier!