I tend to put the same effort into dressing DD as I do myself - if it's clean, suits the weather, and goes with the other clothes she's wearing, it goes on. Sometimes that means she's in a red shirt and blue pants, and likely to be referred to as a boy if we go out. Sometimes it means a pink sparkly dress with pink leggings. The other day it was a grey & white shirt with blue pants because we were going to the footy and I couldn't find her white-and-blue team onesie.

Occasionally I'll deliberately put her in "girly" clothes because I feel like dressing her up (this is usually on days I feel like dressing myself up too), but it doesn't happen often. I do buy girly clothes, but usually it's just because they caught my eye and I think they're cute. I do the same for gender-neutral and boys' clothes, too.

Once she's a bit older, I'll either do the "you can wear whatever you like" thing or the "these are your choices" thing. Actually, I'm kinda-sorta doing that now, she's wearing pants that she brought over to me while I was looking for a different pair today