I'm also subbing for ideas because DD1 has not been doing as she's asked too many times lately. I'm very easy going by nature (but VERY particular about manners) and I think I let her get away with too much.

One of our issues has been her not leaving school when asked. The school grounds are well over an acre and there are four playgrounds. She has been running off between all of them while I have my two-year-old in tow. Not pleasant. I tried to set rules about how she could play in one of the playgrounds for 10 minutes and then we leave. That was only moderately successful before she basically ran all over the shop again one day. So once she was in car, I basically told her in a very calm voice how I'm often very, very proud of her but I've never been as disappointed with her as I was that day.

She's been a whole lot better since that chat. Consequences don't matter that much to her but telling her I was disappointed with her really hit home I think because that's the first time she's heard anything other than praise from me. The other thing that makes her stop and think is the phrase, "we don't do that in this family."

Now, if she leaves promptly when asked she comes home and we watch Little House On The Prairie on youtube as a special treat.

We still have a long, long way to go on other things but at least we've made some progress on this.