Bec, there is a free telephone counselling number which gives non-directive counselling around pregnancy decisions. If you google pregnancy counselling link you should find the page easily. It's a 1800 number. Perhaps both you and your partner could organise a three-way discussion with a counsellor? (I'm not sure if they do that, just an idea). They also do referrals to relevant services as well.
My other idea is to post like crazy in all the general chatter threads etc and get your count up to 50 so you can join the PSG and speak to others who have been in your situation in more privacy.
Sending you more I notice you've logged off and I hope it's not because of the way this thread has gone.
thanks for your support and checking up on me. well my DP is still adament for me to have a termination I will be 12 weeks this Friday and I'm still in my view of Not wanting to have Termination. I guess looks like i could be a single mum, or he is just going to have to adjust to being a dad again, and its now getting further into the pregnancy so I won't be able to have a termination will I after the 12 week mark ???????.
Again thanks so uch for your support and will be in contact again soon.
oOOOoo boy, didn't this thread go into the dumpster for a while...
Bec, I think ultimately you guys need to be on the same page, or someone is going to feel hurt and regret for the rest of their life. I know there really isn't a compromise as such, but maybe if you put a projected budget on paper for him he will see that finances really aren't that bad with just one more? I have 4, and our income is under $50,000. Its tight, but doable. We still have spending money for us every fortnight, but we don't go on holidays. We can't afford much take out, so I have to cook a lot, we don't really buy new stuff. But, I do go shopping at op shops, I shop for the kids toys in the specials throughout the year, and I do other things to cut costs, use cloth nappies etc (I have 3 in nappies though).
FWIW, my DH was against having #4, but in the end, he didn't want me to be unfulfilled and regret not having another one - and although money makes the world go round - nothing brings more joy into your family than another bundle of love. Money can always be made at a later date, we don't have forever to make our babies
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in all the general chatter threads etc and get your count up to 50 so you can join the PSG and speak to others who have been in your situation in more privacy.
I notice you've logged off and I hope it's not because of the way this thread has gone.
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