Baby in the room at night with you?

[Ahurani]

I WAS planning on having the baby in the bassinet next to me at night when she arrives.

But DP was on the phone to his mum the other night and she said she never had the baby in the room with them.. because it woke up his dad.

I havent asked my mum about it yet but what does everyone else do? I was just trying to make it a little bit easier for me *scratches head*

So now Im thinking why the hell am I getting a bassinet when if I did what she did she could just go straight into the cot?

Im confused :/

[Beautiful Disaster]

I'm thinking same thing hun. I have a bassinet but where to put it. In our room or in baby room. I doubt I will have the cot yet so it will be only option.

[TeniBear]

Cookie's coming in the bed with us - but the cot's probably going to migrate into our bedroom too just in case there are times we want him/her in that. It's better for all involved if bub is in the same room, so who am I to put us all out just because the cot resides in a different room right now?

[Arimeh]

We always have our kids next to us in the bassinette - for how long depends on them and us. Sometimes we have moved them early (2 weeks - DS) because he was too noisy in his sleep, sometimes it was longer (4 months - DD1) because she was a light sleeper and we always woke her up. I can't remember when we moved DD2, she moved out of the bassinette pretty early, but then we had the cot next to our bed instead *scratches head trying to remember...*

This one will go next to our bed, and then probably into the cot next to our bed cos there isn't enough room in the house for them to go elsewhere! lol

[MrsFabuloso]

Both of our bubs have gone into a bassinette in our room right next to my bed, or to co-sleeping with me. DD has only recently moved out of our room when we moved here 7mths ago, she's gone straight to her own bedroom and is doing sooo well! DS still needs one of us to sleep with him. We sleep in a double bed with him in his room and the other of ous is in our room. Not ideal for couple time or intimacy, but the best bet in getting a good nights sleep! When #3 comes I will cosleep and hopefully bf him and DH will sleep with and tend to DS and DD if she needs him.
You will figure it out for yourself though. It's a pretty personal decision. I don't sleep well when I sleep with my kids, but I also don't sleep well if they're not with me becauseI'm constantly wondering if they're ok. I figure it's better for me if they're with me cause then I can just put a hand on them and make sure all is well and go straight back to sleep, rather than having to get up to check. DH didn't cosleep with them before about 6ish mths because they were too little, and even then he didn't like it, so we got the double bed for me and DS to sleep in.

[CrazyLady]

I think it depends on the baby and the parents. I had DD in our room with us in the cot until we moved and she became unsettled. She now co sleeps and it suits us.

[~clover~]

All mine have been in our room, next to me. DD1 5 months, DD2 9 months, DS 12 months (but still co slept til about 3 months ago) & DD3 still going.
Its totally up to you, but TBH, I can't stand being that far from mine. Knowing that they'd have to be well & truly upset before I'd wake coz I wouldn't hear them as well. Next to me, DD3 barely has a sook & I'm awake. DH would be lucky to hear her.

[fionas]

DD1 was in a bassinette next to the bed or in the bed. Then in a cot in our room till she was 18 months old.
Same with DD2 except lately she sleeps with DP in a spare bed in another room so that he can do the middle of the night feed (he works late night shifts so it makes sense for him to do it when he gets home rather than me stay up till 1am) and I can get up early to DD1. That way, we all get a decent night's sleep.

Our DDs are quiet sleepers and we've always found that they actually sleep better co-sleeping with DP than they do co-sleeping with me for some reason. We think they find his snoring really comforting.

[beckoes]

i had DD next to the bed for a few weeks but i found that she did wake DH up a bit and he worked quite late shifts so needed sleep. And DHs snoring wasnt very helpful for either DD or I. so in the end DD and I slept in the spare room for a bit then she went in her own room for a while at about 3 months when she was sleeping better (she slept through the night for about a month) then when she started waking more she came back in with us for a few months casue she was waking 5+ times a night but by then she didnt scream everytime she woke up so it didnt really wake DH up. she went back into her cot after she grew out of that and was fine. she would go in her cot with maybe one quick settle over night and then come into bed with us at about 4am. I guess just go with the flow, in the end of the day you do what ever works for you at the time and basically make it up as you go along .

[Little Chicken]

You will figure out what is right for you.
With DD1, I was determined she would start in her room, well, she didn't go into her room until she was 7 months old. She was in a bassinet beside me from birth. I figured I was the one getting up to her, so I might as well be comfy in my own bed, and I didn't want her far from me. Dp wasn't disturbed very much.
DD2 is also in my room but at the end of the bed, and then half way through the night, in the bed.

[~MummaBear~]

we have had all our bubba's in our room (DD didnt go into her own room until she was 9 months old lol) But nothing could wake my DH... i am just really surprised that any of the kiddies could sleep through his snoring lol

[~Hestia~]

You do whatever you feel comfortable with. We had Moo in with us until he was 6 months old, was so handy for all those night feeds as he was right there. After the first couple of weeks DH was able to sleep right through very loud hungry baby screaming!

[~Kim~]

I've had both in with me but I do understand your MILs comments. WIth both DD and DH I couldn't get a wink of sleep so I moved with DD (and her cradle) into the spare room until she went into her own room. Not ideal but my DH has separate issues.
With DS he was cosleeping from the start, and DH was scared of squashing him, so this time he went into the spare room. Again, not ideal, but it works for us.

[~me~]

I used the bassinette for the first couple of weeks. It was easier to put them in and wheel it around where you wanted them. I actually never purchased a bassinette, just borrowed them from friends. They were very handy in those few weeks.
I used to have it beside the bed at night to save having to go to the other end of the house (that's where our kids bedrooms are). If they were a little unsettled I could reach the bassinette from my bed without having to get out and it give it a little rock/shake to help settle them if needed.
After a week or two I would then use the Cot during the day to get them used to the Cot and Bassinette at night beside the bed until they were older and settled enough to go into the Cot permanently at night.
There are alot of people who say the baby in the room disturbs your DP or DH, mine used to wake up in morning and ask me how my night was
You will know what works for you

[~Hestia~]

There are alot of people who say the baby in the room disturbs your DP or DH, mine used to wake up in morning and ask me how my night was You will know what works for you

Sorry if this is OT - but you just reminded me of the time DH turned me in the morning saying "Wow Moo slept well!" I nearly hit him as I'd been up all night

[Iona Macca]

Luke was in our room from birth until he was 3 mths and then into a cot, Mark never was disturbed by Luke waking. So it really depends on what kind of sleeper your DP is. There were many days where Mark would wake in the morning and say that Luke didn't wake at all....until he saw the look on my face!!!

[Taurean]

Sorry if I'm repeating what others have said, I haven't read all the responses. You will work out what is best for you guys. Every family and every baby is different.

DD was in a bassinet in our room until 10 weeks when we moved her to her cot in her room. She was so noisy though (like most newborns) so she often slept just outside our bedroom door - at first with the door open then with the door closed - then she moved into the hallway and then the kitchen (next to our room). Eventually she made it down the hallway to her own room so both DH and I could sleep better!! LOL!

It was handy having her close by but as our DD was a slow feeder, I always took her to the lounge to feed so I could get comfy and watch TV. So in that sense, it didn't really make my life any easier IYKWIM but I did love having her next to me in the beginning.

[Jewel]

I did the bassinette thing in the same room as me, then moved into the cot in our room too. They weren't very noisy as babies, DS1 still is very quiet when he sleeps. Having them in the same room as me helped me sleep I think, and if I could hear them then I knew that they were okay.

Do whatever you're comfortable with.