Hello, I am very new here, in fact I found this thread & site on Sunday afternoon. I know that there has been no new replies here for awhile, but anyway I just needed to share my story so I can move forward. I have a lovely 8yr son who was a miracle baby in the sense he died during his birth. I was very traumatised by the birth & didn't want to go down that track again, my ex husband couldn't understand why we couldn't just have more and more. But 8 years later, my partner & I really want a child of our own & my son really would like to be a big brother. I am 36. We have been trying for 10 months, my partner had some tests done recently that came back a.ok for him & then we finally found out we were positive 2 weekend's ago. we did 3 tests we couldn't believe it. Then this last Sunday afternoon, I started spotting, very dark brown, so I started to stress & found this site which helped me see that it is normal (good or bad). I rang 13health & they advised me to rest & go to the hospital if anything changes (cramps, change in colour). In the middle of the night I woke up & there was a reasonable amount of redder blood, I tried not to be concerned & went back to bed, knowing I was seeing a DR in the morning. When I woke up,the one thing i noticed was my breasts weren't sore at all. I told my partner & he decided to take the day off work to come to the Dr, which was booked for 9.45am. I started to bleed a lot more & it was bright red, I was starting to really get upset. At about 9.30am at home, I passed a very large clot & I knew....i started crying. We went to the dr & she checked internally, I was so sad & my partner was crying too. I still need to have an ultrasound, to ensure that nothing is left, otherwise I need to go to hospital for a D&C. I had no cramping, we were 6 weeks pg & it was a lot more heavier that my usual flow. But as we know when we are pg, I also knew when I was about to lose bub too. Now I am so concerned as the Dr was giving me the talk...which is the over 35 talk. She said that we need to wait until after the next flow then we can start again, she said if in 6 months we still have had no luck then she will give me a referral to an IVF specialist just to help us out a bit. I have no idea what that means - I am just praying that we can fall again without any assistance. Is anyone in the same position as me, I have never had a miscarriage before & just so unsure about the future. Thank you for listening (reading) Alx