Thanks for all your support girl. It does make me feel alot better that there are other people in similar situations to me.
I do just want to enjoy the pregnancy (and really who wants to not be able to drink at the ir own wedding)!
DD- Thanks for your support. I am sure you and your man are very happy evenwithout the piece of paper.
Cassius- My mum has this grand idea of all the fam going to Fiji to get married when the baby is 6mths old and like you I just want to concentrate on being a mum to a new baby and not have the pressure of organising a wedding.
Gecko-I love the idea of eloping. I might suggest that to my DP. We have both never wanted a big wedding either and you are right we could always have something in a few years time where we renew our vows.
Laranna & briggsy's Girl- Thankyou for your helpful suggestions of what to say to people if they ask.
Just another question for those of you who werent married when you had your children...did you give your child your last name or your parnters last name?