Hi Alibaby - haha - when i told my mum that i was pregnant that was the first thing she said 'are you getting married'. I actually didn't expect it - espec in today's day and age.

I've been married before (10 most awful months of my life - long story).... my partner however has not and is keen to get married. However i'm not going to while i feel like i'm being pressured to do so, from partner or family. it has to be a joint decision when the two people are willing and able to do so.

I do think my partner and i will eventually get married, but that is not priority 1. Massive outlay of money for one day and a piece of paper seems wasteful to me. And i agree - do it after you have bubs so you can at least have a champers on the day

I would sit your family/ friends down and sincerly and firmly tell them of you and your partners plans - and that the way it's going to be regardless of their thoughts and beliefs. As long as you're both happy things being that way they should be too. It's your lives not theirs.

good luck