I have a friend who is getting a lot of pressure and her standard response is "Dad will only put up 6 goats for the dowry and DP is holding out for 10" It seems to shut people up (possibly because they are a little confused)
my advice is to take your time and do it when you are ready.
I had alot of pressure when i was pregnant with my DD, i got married while i was 5 months pregnant with her, the wedding was rushed and while it was a nice day it could have been better. This marriage ended in divorce when DD was 1 yr old. I have now remarried a wonderful man, we married after our DS was born, he was 10 months old at our wedding and our DD was our flowergirl, we then had a wonderful family moon . The day was even more special because we were commiting to each other as a family , we had no pressure and had a wonderful day. We now have our second DS.
As for surnames, it can be confusing. My DD has her fathers name and the rest of us have my Dhs surname, so we just hypeante her name, she loves having both surnames.
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