Having done it both ways as well, I can't say that one way is better then the other or not. With both our boys, I never considered finding out, but with DD, it was something that was discussed. DH did not want to find out and I went into the scan not knowing for sure if I wanted to know. DH couldn't come to that scan and I told the lady doing the scan that I didn't want to be told but if it was on the DVD I didn't mind. After TTC for over ten years, it honestly didn't matter one way or the other if we had a girl or boy, although the comments since have driven me crazy "you must be so glad you've had a girl", Ummmm, it honestly didn't matter, I've got a baby.

I did come home and go through the DVD looking for bits, and finally rang back to have it confirmed, and had it double confirmed at an Ob appointment. DH didn't know until our bub was born what we were having, and I can still remember his face when she was delivered. I did tell a few close friends that I knew wouldn't tell anyone, and by mistake my eldest son found out, although he didn't want to know either. My mother used to ask all the time because she knew that I knew, but I used to tell her, until DH knew, I wasn't telling anyone.