I wanted to know and found out with my first - no regrets.
My second I wanted a surprise. The dad wanted to know... and with things so up and down between us, and his drinking problem I decided in the end it was probably just best for me to find out at the scan... cause either way the dad was going to find out... and I knew if he were to tell me in a drunken slip then I would have lost it big time at him. So I found out to save arguements. In a way I'm glad I did, cause I had huge gender disappointment problems.... which in a way I know I wouldn't have had, had I have not found out. I'm still hung up whether or not I should or shouldn't have found out.
If I were ever to have another baby though, I wouldn't find out. I'd want a surprise.. I want that whole movie scene drama of the unveiling of the blankets after they've been on your chest for a while with it's a ..... lol
With my first PG, I didn't want to know, but that was a m/c.
With my second PG, I changed my mind and did want to know. So we found out at 20 weeks and didn't tell anyone we knew.... but we told EVERY stranger the entire waiting room at our scan knew!! And I told here on BB. Tbh I had really wanted a girl, but when I saw my little boy on the screen my heart melted - it was the best thing I ever did. Poor DH was petrified I'd be disappointed but I was just in love , I had never realised that finding out early would be so powerful, I felt I really bonded with him. After a big scare at 21.5 weeks (were told we'd lose him) we told a couple of two family members. It was nice being able to share it with them. He was named by about 21 weeks and we used his name throughtout the PG, and confirmed it within 2 nanoseconds of his birth!
This time, I was hoping for a girl to round out our family - so we decided to find out again. Because my DH told everyone after DS's birth that we knew about DS but kept it secret, we couldn't really do that again! So now we know it's a girl... and we've told the WORLD! DH was joking that I'll take out a 2 page ad in the paper. I never thought I'd enjoy telling during the PG but I love it. It's fantastic to share it before the work of having a new baby to look after! I'm getting to talk to my work colleagues, neighbours, friends... everyone and to enjoy hearing their happiness for us. And i"m talkign to people who I wouldn't necessarily see in the first month or so after the birth - after which time the surprise of the announcement has worn off. I also feel that each time it gives me time to bond and come to terms with it. My main concession to uncertainty is to get the gender double checked a few times, just to make sure!! So saying, I've already named my darling bundle this time too
I think it's such a personal thing, but I have to say, I love love love knowing and telling maybe I'm just a blabbermouth
I think if we did find out one of us would let it slip like last time.. I do want to know but I dont want the world to know (except bb world. lol) With DD I found it so nice bonding with her and calling her by her name that I feel if I dont know this time I might miss out on that extra bonding before birth.. I like saying good morning ........... and I love you ......... But the surprise at the end of the birth... Im sure that is so amazing and wonderful on so many levels...
We spoke again about it yesterday and DH can change is mind with the wind or with some convincing so it comes down to me. What do I want!!! grrrr lol
Eng, when I was pg with my DD we used both 'he' and 'she'. We warned people before we even knew what she was that we would be doing that. So if you mess up and use the true pronoun just use the other one in the next sentence. You could do the same with names is you are going to refer to your baby by name, have a male and female name and use them both!
we were so excited when i was preg with DD there was no way we wernt gonna find out and teh same with this one. i have 8 days till my scan and i am nearly jumping out of my skin.
its a tough call hun, we found out with DD1 and didn't have a choice with DD2 due to the number of scans we had. If/When we decide to go again I am unsure if we will find out before bub is born .... you get a surprise either way so bottom line is how soon do you want the surprise
Well scan is on Tuesday and Im still not 100%.. But Im thinking 20 weeks went by so fast that another 20 wont be too bad.. DH has decided he doesnt want to find out.. So I think we wont be finding out on Tuesday..
Thank you for all your tips and advise... I still could change my mind.. lol
We found out with all our pregnancies, we figure it doesnt ruin the surprise coz you dont know what she looks like... Unless of course you get the 4d scan.
I love knowing what we are expecting, but after my 3rd DS ppl were starting to get on my nerves with 'oh another boy'.... Aslong as bubs is happy and healthy we didnt care, we wanted 4 babies, (together DD from a previous) so if we ended up with 4 boys it wouldnt of mattered.
congratulations of your little BOY blessing I was desperate to find out gender! I was sooooo excited and than the scan was a nightmare (long story) at the time I think I drove BB mad with all of my excitement and than all of my disapointment at the horrible lady we had do the scan on the day. Anyway I think next time around we will go into the scan with an attitude of "if we can see gender than we see gender, if we don't than it will be a surprise" KWIM? that way we can avoid such a HUGE let down if things don't go to plan. That's just my experiance anyway.
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the entire waiting room at our scan knew!! And I told here on BB. Tbh I had really wanted a girl, but when I saw my little boy on the screen my heart melted - it was the best thing I ever did. Poor DH was petrified I'd be disappointed but I was just in love 
, I had never realised that finding out early would be so powerful, I felt I really bonded with him. After a big scare at 21.5 weeks (were told we'd lose him) we told a couple of two family members. It was nice being able to share it with them. He was named by about 21 weeks and we used his name throughtout the PG, and confirmed it within 2 nanoseconds of his birth!
I was desperate to find out gender! I was sooooo excited and than the scan was a nightmare (long story) at the time I think I drove BB mad with all of my excitement and than all of my disapointment at the horrible lady we had do the scan on the day. Anyway I think next time around we will go into the scan with an attitude of "if we can see gender than we see gender, if we don't than it will be a surprise" KWIM? that way we can avoid such a HUGE let down if things don't go to plan. That's just my experiance anyway.
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