I wanted to know and found out with my first - no regrets.

My second I wanted a surprise. The dad wanted to know... and with things so up and down between us, and his drinking problem I decided in the end it was probably just best for me to find out at the scan... cause either way the dad was going to find out... and I knew if he were to tell me in a drunken slip then I would have lost it big time at him. So I found out to save arguements. In a way I'm glad I did, cause I had huge gender disappointment problems.... which in a way I know I wouldn't have had, had I have not found out. I'm still hung up whether or not I should or shouldn't have found out.

If I were ever to have another baby though, I wouldn't find out. I'd want a surprise.. I want that whole movie scene drama of the unveiling of the blankets after they've been on your chest for a while with it's a ..... lol