just came across this thread and i am so sorry to hear what your going through :hugs:

I think everyone has given great advice and you need to consider what is best for both of you, and if he treats you this way is he really worth it?

That sounds horrible but surely at 27 he should be able to be rational and sit down with you and discuss the pros and cons, he can't make you responsible for his past or punish you for what his XP has done to him.
I understand it would be hard for him and how he can think it's not fair on his other kids but whats fair for YOU?

No matter what i'm sure your mother will be there to support you, they all get upset with us over one thing or another.. it may take time but shes your mum and she loves you!

You BOTH need to be able to make this choice but if you don't feel you can mentally handle another abortion then thats completely understandable.

1 last thought... if you DID get an abortion and stayed with him would it make the relationship any better, how would YOU feel about him?
Would you blame him for the decision, because if you would then the relationship will be just as rocky without a baby in the picture.

I hope he can act like the grown up he's meant to be and sit down and discuss it with you, he shouldn't pressure you into making a decision.

I hope whatever you do you make the right decision for yourself and for your relationship, it would be so so hard!

Good luck with it all.