Thank you both.

I know there would be some support, but i don't know how i could manage it all on my own.

I'm 32 and finally in the workforce, it's taken a long time to get here and to do this on my own now would stuff up a lot of things for me and my kids. We've been struggling for so long and now finally we're that little better off which is making enough difference that the kids don't feel left out of too many things, especially with school, etc.

My mum is no help really, she says she'll help but she's not reliable. One minute she'll help and next she won't, and when she will, she wants money for it.

I know i couldn't ask the ex for anything as he's already made it clear that he wants nothing to do with it. Deep down though i know it's not true, i think he's just saying that cos of the crappy situation he's in now. he has to impress a lot of people and is under pressure. So far he's putting on an act, he's lied to her so many times already. Anyway. Point is, i'd have to give up a lot of things to try to raise this baby on my own.

I know in a way it's a selfish thing, but what chance do i have of finding someone with 3 kids?

I just don't know whats the best thing to do.