Hi all, i'm new to this forum and i'm hoping i might find some help.

First a little about me, i have 2 kids, oldest being 11yrs. I'm divorced and i was in a recent relationship with a guy for over 3yrs but his mum is very determined he marry someone from their country that she's managed to 'buy' him into it. I really think it's brainwashing, but either way, he's now engaged to this person who he's known for barely a mth while he was there on 'holiday' which was to meet her. Seems the two families have planned this a long time ago as she's 24, still a virgin and has been waiting for him.

When he returned, he of course came back to me and was confused as to what he wanted. When i later found txts on his ph, him telling her he loves her, etc. i went nuts and ended it. Seems he was playing me, maybe just using me to fill in time till she gets here. Don't know. I doubt he even knows what he wants even though he'll say she's everything he's wanted, a virgin with no bagage.

Now the problem is, i'm about 4wks pregnant. Just confirmed it couple of days ago. He doesn't want it under any cirumstance and is pretty much forcing me to abort. His mum doesn't even know about me, he always said she wouldn't approve of me cos i had kids and was divorced.

I really don't want to abort, but at the same time my youngest started school and i got a job, which i love, and i've just started to get my life back on track. I know i couldn't raise this kid on my own, it was hard enough when ex hubby was helping. I don't really have family to help either.

So, i don't know what to do. I have wondered of adopting it out, and i'm not sure if i could when it came time. I know it's a boy, not that that makes any difference either way. If i had someone to look after it while i was at work and to help out, i could probably do it. But at the moment, i can't see how i could cope.