If a 'bully' is someone who wishes for people to avoid unnecessary trauma and unpleasantness, so be it How odd! It seems women are more prepared to accept the fear of god than to be told they can have better than that! The Business of Being Born addresses this very thing.
I would never be grateful to anyone who led me to believe that birth is a traumatic affair that is best left to doctors. I am grateful to those who helped me achieve what I did and I still resent the horror-storytellers, to this day. Take your pick!