Pressure to Have the "Perfect Birth"

[scooby]

This is such an interesting thread and as i have had afew sleepless nights over this id like to share, it a bit of a long sorry:
I had aperfect preg with DS with no hickups til the birth i ended up with a nasty 3rd degree tear which took monthes to repair and years to get over, my son popped his lung and ended up in special care for 3 days and not sure if its connected but 1.5 years of fertility treatment with induction, insemination and finally IVF, i should point out that i study natural medicine and tried everything in my power before medical intervention. I fell preg last year and ended up with an ectopic, more medical intervention, and the loss of my tube!
The ob and midwife who birthed my son said CS next time, the ob i saw for my ectopic said CS, my new ob is saying CS, not only beacuse of last time, but it is anatomical and because of my mothers history of bowel prolapse! I have tried in vain to get information and cannot get anything unbiased, i read that you say everyone is all about intervention, drugs, obs etc. but my experience has been the opposite, even when i posted in a "so called" CS support forum i got inudated with all the risks involved with CS when i was asking for help. Im sorry but i find the web is an open slather for CS vigiliantes who want to preach what they think is best, if anyone made me feel bad and depressed for my so called "elective" it is these people! I realise there are risks believe me im well educated on them, but for me there is risks in VB and i realise your probably thinking im saving my own skin and its not whats best for my baby. Well unlike my mum i want to go camping and hiking and play sport without worrying about incontinence, or worst case senerio having a coloscopy bag!! I could go on and on, but the strongest point in all this that i want to make is that as women we should support each others choices NOT subject one another to our own strong opinions, it is these strong view points that play on our minds on those sleepless nights and at those times when we are feeling low. Isnt it so wonderful today that we have a choice and that maternal and paternal death rates are so much lower than they were years ago. Live and let live!