Wow! I'm so sorry to hear your family and friends are giving you a hard time about finding out the gender of your baby.
That seams so petty in the grand scheem of life.

We are having the opposite reaction as we have not found out. When asked what we are having I say "a baby!" It's noone elses buisness. We wanted the babys gender to be a surprise for us. Besides we have one child of each gender so what ever we get it a bonus.

It's noone elses buisness wether you find out or not, as for writing an email to deter you from finding out.....well I have nothing nice to say about that other than tell him to mind his own buisness.