We have had relationship *hiccups* related to a second trimester pregnancy loss and bleeding in the first trimester of each subsequent pregnancy. I know I need physical intimacy to feel secure in our relationship (my own weird anomaly) and the lack of it distresses me in many ways. Trying to get pregnant with our daughter who was stillborn took 3 years, our son took 10 months after her birth with ovulation induction drugs. There were times that he felt like a sperm donor (only said once but the words cut deep) and it was important to the long term aspect of our relationship that we actually made love, not just tried to get pregnant at the *right* time.

With the subsequent pregnancies, he has worried about adding to the bleeding with intercourse. It took a lot of talking to get that out of him. I know he loves me and I know he desires me. It is the communication that occurs during this tumultuous time that makes the difference to both of you.