Minus the IVF, I know exactly how you are feeling. It's very hard. My only advice is to take each day as it comes. Easier said than done, I know, but sometimes just reminding myself that all of this is beyond my control, and that I can either choose to enjoy it and let things be, or worry and let this time pass me by, even though there is nothing I can do about it, really helps me. As scary as it is, it's out of your control now. All you can do is try to let yourself love your little one, throw yourself into it. Hugs