hey murph, that is a tough one. but i think just letting her figure it out would be pretty insensitive given you are obviously concerned about the lady.
at the end of the day,she is the one with the issue about it. don't let it become your problem and i completely understand the resnentful comment. i'm sure we all understand where she's coming from as well.

i like the note idea. it's not like you are best buddies. i'd write the note and tell her you understand it's difficult for her and you are there if she needs to talk. she might not react like she did to her friend's announcement as she knows what you've been through. maybe it might instead give her hope and joy for you... don't underestimate her just yet me thinks.

let us know what you do and how it turns out... good luck hon.

thanks BG - question though what's mpm and where is that (i know, idiot). and what does mcn stand for in the nappy discussions. i tried to find it in the abbreviation help but couldn'. yeah, i was going to go to a big shop and scope out all the stuff we want/need with prices then look for deals on line and elsewhere. i'm hanging out to start buying stuff....

bel - i only know of your journey from what i picked up in your post but BIG congrats for yoru courage and strength. that's an awfully long time to be stuck in hosp, i really admire you and hope you make your 34wks. ox

thankx miss magpie - yep, had a lay down this arvo (still in bed ) and feel better. really went down hill at work though with bit of a temp, shakiness, lots of dizziness and just feeling really off color. had to come home, again. one day i'll make it 8 hrs... just not sure when that'll be.

hi to anyone else i've missed.

oxox