i agree with boc and poppy fairy, just say NO! But i disagree wih boc about the letter (sorry lady ).. I think you should just tell her no on the phone. dont' make a huge thing out of it or show her you were worried about it. My mum suggested teh same thing early on and i simply said "oh, well it's only going to be DH and I at the birth''. NO arguement, no discussion, no justification. IF she asks why she can't come, I'd just say "i only want DH there thanks.'' And then maybe suggest a better time for a visit.
That or tell DH to do it. Men are so wimpy when it comes to their mums, but i'd just put the hard word on him and use as much preggy sympathy as you can too! lol.
And honey - you AREN'T letting anyone down. they want to employ YOU. You are busy producing new life and supporting that life... Plus it's a job - you don't owe them anything... they pay you to work. Don't get sucked into the "guilt'' that you need to be superwoman and do everything. Whatever your decision give yourself time. I know you love work and are excited about this job but please remember that you can't do everything (at once anyway) and if they are as loyal to you as you are to them, then they'll wait for you love.
Sorry if that's too blunt love, you shouldn't have to put up with any pressure or worry atm. the job thing is very hard and you know best how you'll go but IMO, the MIL thing is very simple lol.
and yes, i do get along with my MIL. she's a very sweet woman, a little eccentric but is a kind person (still drives me nuts but the more i know the more understanding i am).
it's gorgeous here today - cool and rainy perfect maternity weather. DH home in 10 days!!! 10 days!!! Got obst appnt tomorrow and haircut thurs Fur baby is keeping me entertained and providng lots of cuddles (she's currently dreaming about chasing rabbits and is moving her legs and 'gruffing' lol crazy little thing).
just while typing had a phone call from one of my MIL's clients who lives about 30 mins away... she's like 80 and rang to check on me and ask me over for coffee. that was sooo sweet! lol.
sorry about the gas bagging ... you girls are my lifeline, i lub you all (no i haven't been into the port barrel )
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).. I think you should just tell her no on the phone. dont' make a huge thing out of it or show her you were worried about it. My mum suggested teh same thing early on and i simply said "oh, well it's only going to be DH and I at the birth''. NO arguement, no discussion, no justification. IF she asks why she can't come, I'd just say "i only want DH there thanks.'' And then maybe suggest a better time for a visit.
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